Ask and You Shall Receive.

So, what do you truly want? 

Are you sure about it? 

Why do you have this specific desire? 

Why is it important? 

And what if the answer is no?

Tuning into Your Wants and Needs

How do you really tune into your wants and needs? 

Your approach to these questions indicates your process and your strategy.

 For many of us, approaching our needs feels like fighting against all odds — whether due to generational trauma or the belief that our circumstances make it impossible.

Have you ever …

believed in something so clearly that it wasn’t a matter of if, but when? 

In this state, we scan all obstacles and ask ourselves about the challenge ahead. 

But by scrutinizing and analyzing the blockages, we often trap ourselves, feeling like there’s no way out.

For a long time

my mindset was: I wake up every morning, pick up a sword and shield, and fight the world. 

I believed I had to be strong enough to battle daily. 

It was exhausting, but I continued for years, achieving many of my goals, yet left with the scars of war. 

Some of these scars I wear proudly; they have become the fabric of my existence.

Here’s a piece I wrote a few years ago that reflects the space I was in:

 — -

Behave Yourself

I’m sorry for being proud of being a woman.

I’m sorry for believing I am beautiful.

I’m sorry for my modesty.

I’m sorry for my honesty.

I am sorry for my strength.

I’m sorry for believing that I am enough.

I’m sorry for educating myself.

I’m sorry for taking responsibility for my mistakes.

I’m sorry for giving you respect when I am disrespected out of respect for myself.

I’m sorry for being true to my values.

I’m sorry for not needing to be right.

I’m sorry if feelings matter.

I’m sorry for making a difference.

I’m sorry that my presence makes you feel insecure.

I’m sorry for believing in you.

I’m sorry for loving you.

I’m sorry for falling for you and breaking into a million little pieces.

I’m sorry for not having enough time to collect myself.

I am sorry for my wounds.

I am sorry that you now see me as broken.

I’m sorry for wanting to fix myself.

I’m sorry for waiting my turn to speak.

I’m sorry for waiting.

I’m sorry for wanting to be better.

I’m sorry that you see this as misbehavior.

 — -

I used to apologize 

for everything I did, believing it was wrong to have wants and needs and to feel like a woman. 

I was eclipsed by old trauma, fighting hard to leave it behind, feeling like there was no way out.

But there was. 

I broke the pattern by creating stronger habits and altering my frequency.

I made sure my basic needs were met daily and weekly: sleep, food, movement, and spiritual practice. 

Yoga helped me alter my nervous system, followed by meditation. I would sit for hours, better than spiraling into negative thoughts or drama.

Only then did I ask myself what I truly wanted. 

I made a list, meditated on it, cleaned up my diet, and observed my negative patterns. I held myself accountable to reframe my thinking. 

I couldn’t believe I was a victim and abundant at the same time. 

You can only walk one road at a time. I chose the road where my possibilities were all possible, meaning I had to let go of the other thoughts.

 I had to let go of my pain. 

I had to relax my muscles and let the tension evaporate. 

It was scary, but it was necessary.

The muscles and the nervous system are always connected. 

When we struggle to connect with our nervous system, movement is the way to reach it. 

By relaxing our muscles, we regulate our nervous system. Yoga creates this awareness.

Tension in the body is a message, 

sometimes indicating unrecognized emotions. Whether negative or positive, emotions can create tension. 

If we’re not aware or connected to our emotions, we won’t understand how they communicate with us.

It’s a daily practice, and I am a work in progress. 

But one thing I can tell you is that life is amazing when you consciously allow and embrace the incredible things it has to offer.

Reflecting on this journey, 

I’ve learned that embracing our true desires requires both courage and patience. It’s not about fighting every day but about allowing ourselves the space to grow, to heal, and to receive. 

Life is a continuous work in progress, and so are we. 

By tuning into our wants, releasing old patterns, and nurturing our bodies and minds, we open the door to the abundance we truly deserve.

Remember, it’s okay to be a work in progress — every brick we lay, every wall we build, brings us closer to the magnificent castle we are destined to become. 

Let’s keep building, with love and intention, one day at a time.

Thank you for being part of my journey, and I hope this resonates with yours.