Take Things Personally!

We hear it all the time 

— “Don’t take it personally!” 

— but what if taking things personally could be the key to finding alignment, receiving what we truly desire, and feeling deeply connected to our lives?

We go through the motions, working hard, putting in the effort, but often feeling that something is missing.

Today, I want to flip the script: take things personally.

Make life about you — your needs, your energy, your alignment.

Effort vs. Alignment: Different Frequencies

Effort and alignment are two sides of the same coin, but they serve different purposes.

When we’re asking for something — setting intentions, making requests, working toward goals — we’re in a state of effort.

Effort is about pushing past resistance, overcoming challenges, and taking action.

But here’s the catch: effort alone isn’t enough to receive what we want.

Receiving requires us to move to a different frequency, one of alignment. It’s a softer, quieter energy, where instead of pushing, we allow.

Effort brings you to the door; alignment lets you walk through it.

To receive, we need to drop into a lower vibration — a state of openness, calm, and acceptance. 

Hard work and hustle won’t bring us what we desire if we’re too tense or disconnected to receive it.

Creation can only happen when we’re fully present, connected, and open.

The Trap of Constant Effort

In our culture, we’re taught that more effort equals more results. But that’s not always true. Imagine trying to push water uphill; the harder you push, the more resistance you encounter.

Effort is crucial when we’re moving past obstacles or setting our intentions, but once we’ve asked, we need to step back and let alignment take over.

Ask yourself: Are you in a state of constant effort, working tirelessly but never feeling fulfilled? If so, it might be time to let go, step back, and allow.

Signs of Disconnection: Complaining and Resistance

A major sign that we’re out of alignment is when we start to complain.

Complaints often come from a place of disconnection — where we’re unaware of what we’re actually asking for or disconnected from the process of receiving.

When we complain, we’re often focusing on the lack, on what’s missing or not working. This pulls us out of the receptive, aligned state and throws us into resistance.

Notice when you complain — it’s usually a sign that you’re not fully present or connected to your own desires.

It means you’re more focused on “them” (outside circumstances, other people) than on “you.” Complaining is the mind’s way of signaling that something isn’t aligned, that you’re pushing too hard, or that you’re blocking the very thing you’re asking for.

Making It Personal

When we take things personally — in a positive, intentional way — it becomes less about others and more about our own alignment and connection.

Making things personal means investing in what truly matters to you, not what looks good on paper or meets someone else’s expectations.

It’s about asking, What do I truly want? What resonates with me?

When you make it personal, you’re not just following trends, chasing approval, or living in reaction to others.

Instead, you’re choosing from a place of authenticity, and in doing so, you’re building a life that feels aligned and fulfilling.

Effort to Ask, Alignment to Receive

Think of asking and receiving as two separate frequencies.

Effort is required when we make a request. We use effort to overcome our initial resistance, set our intentions, and take the first steps toward our goals. It’s active and requires focus.

But once the ask is out there, we need to shift. Receiving happens in a different frequency. To receive, we have to let go, trust, and allow things to flow to us.

Imagine you’re planting a seed: the effort goes into preparing the soil, planting, and watering. But after that, you must step back. You can’t force a plant to grow by pulling on it. The creation process requires patience and alignment

Allowing Creation to Happen

Creation can’t happen from a place of disconnection.

When we’re disconnected — whether through stress, complaints, or overthinking — we’re not in a state to receive.

Our energy is scattered, and we close off to possibilities.

Alignment means being open. Open to receiving, open to what unfolds, and open to surprises. To receive, we need to relax into the process, create the space for what we’ve asked for, and trust that it’s on its way.

This is why breathwork, meditation, and grounding practices can be so powerful. They help us drop into that receptive, lower vibration, allowing us to be fully present and open to what’s coming.

Your Personal Frequency

When we talk about “taking things personally,” it doesn’t mean being overly sensitive or reactive. It means building a life that reflects your values, your desires, and your truth.

Taking things personally means being accountable to yourself and aligning your actions with your deeper intentions.

It’s about stepping into your own frequency — the unique energy that only you can bring to the world.

Let go of the need to blend in, follow trends, or live up to other people’s expectations.

Instead, bring your own personality, values, and style into everything you do. When you make things personal, you make life about you — not anyone else.

Step Into Alignment

If you feel like life has become a constant grind, filled with effort but lacking fulfillment, take a moment to pause. Reflect on the balance between effort and alignment.

Are you asking and pushing, but not allowing space to receive?

Remember: Effort will open doors, but alignment will walk you through them. Take things personally, invest in what matters to you, and let life flow toward you.

• Esther

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