One of the greatest lies in life has been convincing people to wear clothing they don’t look good in, eat food on diets that aren’t compatible with their body type or lifestyle, and work a job they hate so that they can pay the rent.

All in the name of stability.

It sounds like Betrayal, but it feels all too familiar.

Allow me to take you back to a moment in my life when I seemed to have it all – a growing family, a stable job, and a roof over our heads. I owned the picket fence. Yet, amidst the semblance of success, I felt like a stranger in my own life. It took me years of introspection to realize that the source of my discontent stemmed from living up to someone else's expectations rather than honoring my own truth.

I thought I was a difficult person, that something was wrong with me, and that no matter what, I would fail. I was convinced the universe was conspiring against me, but in truth, I was missing tools.

But along the journey of discovery, I exchanged quality pieces of myself in hopes of gaining access to love and acceptance, and it didn’t work.

We've all fallen prey to society's pressure to conform and break the promises we make to ourselves – whether it's squeezing into ill-fitting trends, forcing ourselves onto diets that don't nourish, or staying in jobs that drain our souls. It's a subtle betrayal camouflaged by the desire for acceptance and validation.

Giving something of ourselves in hopes of gaining.

In our hunt for value, we can sometimes lose our own sense of value by acclimating to someone else's set of rules, diminishing our light, which will only minimize our sense of importance.

So, if you are true to yourself, 

The way you do one thing is the way you do everything.

Wear things that work for you. Build a wardrobe rather than only wear what is trending. It will last longer and benefit you in the long run.

The same is true regarding caloric intake - eat real food.

Sitting down at a table with real dishes and your phone on silent. Protein and vegetables in underestimated. Real food will give you the energy you seek.

How can you stay consistent?

Know your thresh hold.

Bingeing often signals inner disconnection. Your antidote? Reconnection.

Pause, breathe, embrace your full self. Trade bingeing for balance. Ready to reconnect?

Stop tiptoeing in life. 

Time is limited.

Clear communication is a fast-track success.

“A creative life cannot be sustained by approval any more than it can be destroyed by criticism.” - Will Self

Get to know yourself better rather than how you fit into other people’s lives.

The thing you are most afraid of sharing about yourself is usually the stuff most people will connect to. Find the confidence within yourself.

Accountability:

If you want to know who has control over you…just look at who you blame.

The world belongs to those who don't give up.

Disclaimer: it's not going to go right on your first attempt.

To enter the game and succeed, Build a community you desire to be a part of. Create an ecosystem that benefits everyone involved. Every ounce of effort poured into this journey pays off if you love what you are doing!

Persistence and consistency will lead to Success. Because most people will quit.

Remember, success is not defined by the absence of failure, but by the resilience to persevere despite setbacks. See yourself as a leader in your own life, wielding influence responsibly and nurturing authenticity in yourself and others.

You have to see yourself as a leader…. of your own life at least.

Understand that influence, however small or large, is your responsibility to cultivate and will impact your environment, and your influence will impact others around you.

Create a world you desire to live in.

Begin with small steps.

• How can you align your actions with your authentic self in all aspects of your life?

• What boundaries can you set to ensure consistency and alignment with your values?

• How do you respond to setbacks, and how can you cultivate resilience in the face of adversity?

• In what ways can you assert your needs and communicate more effectively in your relationships?

• What steps can you take to build a supportive community that nurtures your authenticity and growth?

• How can you embrace vulnerability and share your authentic self with confidence?

• Who do you hold accountable for your circumstances, and how can you reclaim agency over your life?