What Would Change If You Trusted Your Creation?

Life is a lot like baking a cake…..

You get to decide what kind of cake you want to bake. 

You gather the ingredients, mix them together, and prepare the batter with care. But once you’ve put it in the oven, the process is out of your hands.

You can’t micromanage the baking process. 

You can’t keep opening the oven every five minutes to see if it’s perfect. 

All you can do is trust the work you’ve put in, let the oven do its job, and wait to enjoy the results.

The same principle applies to every act of creation in life — whether it’s building a business, nurturing a relationship, or planning a meaningful event.

The Creation Process: Where Critique Belongs

The time for critique, adjustments, and decision-making is before the creation is complete.

When you’re gathering ingredients or brainstorming ideas, it’s helpful to question your choices, experiment, and ask for feedback. This is the part of the process where critique is constructive.

But once you’ve made your decisions, assembled your ingredients, and put your “cake” in the oven, that’s where critique needs to stop.

The creation phase is over, and now it’s time to step into a new energy: receiving.

The Vulnerability of Receiving

When the cake is done, the only thing left to do is enjoy it. 

To sit at the table, take a bite, and experience the flavors you’ve created.

But here’s where things get tricky: receiving requires vulnerability.

Whether it’s savoring a meal, enjoying a date, or simply sitting down at dinner with your family, receiving puts us in a lower vibration. 

It’s a state of openness where we absorb what’s in front of us, and in that state, we’re naturally more sensitive.

This is why meals often become moments of tension. 

Sitting around the dinner table is one of the few times families are together, so it becomes a breeding ground for critiques and unresolved frustrations.

But mealtime, like eating cake, isn’t the time to critique — it’s the time to connect, nurture, and enjoy.

Reversing the Critique Mindset

Think about this for a moment: how often do you critique something after the creation is complete?

On a date, instead of enjoying the person in front of you, do you find yourself critiquing them, mentally checking boxes for whether they fit your criteria?

At work, do you review a finished project with frustration because it didn’t turn out exactly the way you imagined?

Or with family, do you bring unresolved tensions to the dinner table, turning what should be a nurturing moment into one filled with judgment?

When we critique after the fact, it doesn’t improve the experience — it robs us of the joy that comes from simply being present.

The Importance of Preparation

The key to avoiding unnecessary critique is preparation.

If you take the time to plan and make your decisions beforehand, you eliminate much of the frustration that arises during the experience itself.

Whether it’s dating, building a business, or hosting a family dinner, intentional preparation ensures that when the moment comes, you’re free to enjoy it fully.

A New Perspective on Receiving

What would happen if you entered your experiences with this mindset:

“Now that I’ve made my decisions, my only job is to enjoy the experience.”

Imagine going on a date and choosing to be fully present instead of evaluating the person across from you.

Imagine sitting down to a meal and appreciating the flavors, the company, and the moment instead of bringing criticism to the table.

When you approach life this way, you create space for connection, nurturing, and fun. You honor the work you’ve already put in, and you allow yourself to receive the joy of your creation.

Trust the Process

Creation and critique both have their place.

During the preparation phase, critique is essential — it helps us refine our ideas and make better choices. But once the decisions are made, the creation is complete, and it’s time to let go.

Trust that you’ve done the work. Trust that the “cake” you’ve baked will turn out as it’s meant to.

And most importantly, give yourself permission to enjoy the results.

Key Takeaway:

The next time you find yourself critiquing after the fact, pause and ask:

• Have I already made my decisions?

• Is this the time to analyze, or is it the time to receive?

By shifting your mindset, you can create more space for joy, connection, and presence in your life.

After all, life isn’t just about the work we put into creating — it’s about savoring the sweetness of what we’ve made.

 Esther